"Everyone is in favour of free speech for himself: the problem begins only with others. ...It is so obvious that the right to free speech includes the right to say things that others might find offensive or irritating that it is surprising, and not altogether reassuring, that a columnist in what was once a liberal newspaper should deride it.
It is true, however, that few rights come without corresponding duties. The duty that corresponds to the right to free speech is the duty to control the degree to which what others say provokes you. "
That's right: it is your responsibility not to get offended.